Spring, Rebirth, & Change

Although it's been spring for a while, it's starting to REALLY feel like spring here where I live with the pollen dusting everything, the flowers blossoming, and the greenery blooming at every turn.

For many this is a great time to get outside and enjoy the weather, while for others it can be crazy due to allergies. Regardless, the season of spring is all about rebirth and recognizing that many things are cyclical. Spring and "springtime" refer to the season, and also to ideas of rebirth, rejuvenation, renewal, resurrection and regrowth.

While so many people lean on New Years to start something new, Spring is also a great time to renew, reflect, refresh, and REGAIN control on your lifestyle change in your post-op journey.

No matter where you are on your journey, you can START again! This is where the idea of RENEWAL is born. No matter where are on your journey, you can RESTART and begin anew.

Just like the metaphor of the caterpillar and the butterfly, the chrysalis is where the work begins. It's the same for you.. it's the inner work that helps produce the actions and the outer results.

And.. your own transformation begins with a choice, a decision, and then subsequent action steps.

Yet even when you WANT to start, there may be confusion, anxiety, or overwhelm on where to begin.

What do I start with? What steps do I take?

And, it DOES NOT need to be that hard! I promise!!

The goal is to get back to BASICS as soon as possible, and to KEEP THINGS SIMPLE!

Do you remember that acronym... KISS (Keep It Simple, Sunshine!)

This is what you need in your life.. you don't need complicated.. you need SIMPLE!

The thing is.. your brain likes to over-complicate things. Your brain tells you that you need new gadgets (instapot, airfryer, etc.), a fancy gym membership, etc. Your brain tells you that you have to wait for the PERFECT time, that you have to wait until... etc. etc..

The truth is, you just need to keep things simple and you've got to start SMALL.

Again, you may want to OVERHAUL your life in one swoop! I get it. You want to be efficient, yet.. that's not how it works. If you've been reading my emails for a while, you'll know that the trying to do it all too soon ends up shutting you down before you get very far because it's unsustainable.

What is important is that you focus on ONE THING at a time.

The other issue however is you need to sustain your MOTIVATION for the long-haul, and through the messy middle when things get stale and boring.

This is why you need short-term tasks that help you keep up with your mid-term goals, and that you SWITCH things up to keep things exciting so you don't get bored!

And before we even get you into action... we need to figure out what's happening in your life and in your post-op WLS process.

As spring gets sprung, this is a good time to reflect on your process so far.

What's working? What's not? Where do you think you need to begin?

Some people might say, "I don't know, that's why I need help!"

Here's the thing, you're not stuck, you are just committed to a pattern of behaviors that aren't serving your goals. It's time to get committed to something different.

What is it that you TRULY desire? What happens when you achieve the outcome you want?

That may be something that takes more than a little digging to know, but, if you don't figure it out, how will you get the motivation to begin?

See, psychologically, there needs to be a payoff for your hard work. WHAT are you working for?
What is the PLEASURE you'll gain when you get to goal? THIS is what will help you move forward.

Anything less than a B-HAG (Big Hairy Audacious Goal) is going to have you running back to the Cheetos or Oreo's in no time.

You've got to know WHY you're working for it, so you'll have a reason to KEEP working for it in the long run. If you don't know, you'll revert to old patterns or give up when things get tough.

This is why REFLECTING is such a good option for recognizing what you want, so you'll gain the motivation to start.

YOU MUST BE READY TO GIVE UP WHAT IS NO LONGER SERVING YOU IN ORDER TO GAIN THE THINGS IN LIFE YOU HAVE ALWAYS WANTED.

It's an exchange.

And.. it prepares you. You must be READY to move into the START phase.

Like I said a few weeks ago in my emails, if you try and start before you're ready, you'll likely stay in that same phase of change. You want to be hungry for change so that you go after it with all you've got.

Think about something in your life that you REALLY REALLY WANTED. There was a no-matter-what attitude that came with it. There was a passion or a purpose and you knew that you would do just about anything to get it. That also applies here.

Yet there are two things we'll need to work on... FIRST your readiness for change. You must be ready and eager to begin. Once the eagerness is there, it helps you because your old habits will die hard. So, this is why you MUST be eager so that you have the mental, emotional, and physical energy to to work on replacing old habits.

What I mean here is this.. if you try to work on changing your habits without an attitude adjustment (eagerness), then it will be difficult to change because your 'strength' isn't there in terms of connecting with an outcome. You'll likely NOT understand or not know WHY you're working toward something and then of course you'll feel like you are stuck because you're giving in to old habits without recognizing it (autopilot behaviors). The eagerness helps you to stay conscious of your decisions, while your deeper why reminds you of what you're working for.

These together help you stay focused when temptation and triggers linger.

Remember, it's not willpower that you need, it's flexing the muscle of consciousness and discipline of new habits that you want. This relies on your deeper WHY and what you'll gain as a result. Starting small will also help you gain traction instead of losing ground on attempting to do too much too soon.

Here's your SPRING FORWARD challenge, NOTE: it begins and ends with reflection! :)

STEP 1: REFLECT: Go deeper on WHY you want what you say you want - what's the reason? what will you do when you get there? Then.. get excited about getting there. Don't think about how long it will take, just start to get excited about that life.

STEP 2: COMMIT to ONE **new** habit this week (drinking your water, focusing on protein, make a meal plan, or get your body moving, take the stairs, etc.) CHOOSE ONLY ONE to work on! Give yourself some daily action steps to build this ONE new habit.

STEP 3: EXPEL ONE **old** habit this week (saying "no" to drive-thrus, get rid of trigger foods from your house, release junk or sodas from your life, too much couch time, etc.)

STEP 4: REPEAT steps 2 & 3 daily and aim for 60%-80% consistency. Listen, no one is perfect and aiming for 100% is just ridiculous your first week. Try for 60-80% and you'll likely hit it. We want progress, not perfection!

STEP 5: Celebrate your successes and REFLECT again. Reflect on what you've learned, reflect on what you've accomplished and give yourself a huge pat on the back for your commitment all week.

Repeat week after week with a NEW weekly goal and new weekly action steps to keep you moving forward. Springing into action can be easy and you'll make progress in no time!

Try this out this week and let me know how it goes!

Until next time!