Quite often, I hear people struggle with comparing themselves with others, struggling with...
When will I get there?
Why haven't I lost as much as that other person has lost?
Why am I not there yet?
Why can't I stick with anything?
What's wrong with me?
Why can't I just.... ???
The truth is, this journey is a process more than it is anything else.
And.... if you continue to focus on where you're NOT yet, or why you CAN'T, you'll continue to feel and be stuck, because your focus will be on what you DON'T want, instead of what you DO want.
Working on you is part of your WLS journey. Working on yourself, is the best gift you'll give to yourself, and to those who love you, EVER!! This is because not only do you get YOU back again, they get ALL of you as well. You are able to do all of the things that you weren't able to do before surgery. And, you'll rediscover the magic of life, because you'll learn to rediscover the MAGIC of YOU!
There are many reasons why you may get frustrated with various parts of the journey, (stalls being one area I see many people feel frustrated). When you recognize that these things are temporary, you'll have the courage and insight to keep moving forward.
Getting down on yourself just tends to keep you immobile instead of zooming right alone.
Have you ever been stuck in a traffic jam and wondered, What the hell is going on up there? - OR - What is taking them so long to clear the road??
You are doing this to yourself on your own journey by playing the "stop/start" game, and by not recognizing that you learn as you grow.
Sometimes the "stuckness" may be emotional and it may be anxiety, depression, or a clinical mental health issue. If this comes up, it is very important you find a counselor in your area to help you process these emotions, so you can work through them and keep going.
Mental health issues come up frequently in our community, and having a therapist can be essential to gain the therapeutic tools to deal with depression, anxiety, grief & loss issues, etc.
As you move through this journey, you'll recognize that the things you once thought were road blocks, were just speed bumps, and you breeze right through once you deal with the issue that comes up.
Sometimes, I will see people's own issues with unworthiness, or feeling they are not deserving of good things, or not good enough themes come up which is why they stop working the process. You chose this journey for a reason. Despite what your past looks like, or even your present, you are worthy 100% in the here and now, regardless of what you've been through, regardless of anything.
You are worthy right now!
Believing this is a different story.. Working on you, however, helps you bust through these limiting beliefs, so you can live the life you've always wanted, and feel worthy of having it to boot!
Here are some journaling prompts to help you work through this so you can REFOCUS your attention on working on YOU!
What keeps you stuck NOT working on yourself though?
What emotions/feelings come up when you think of working on yourself in this post-op journey?
Besides the "effort" that goes into maintaining healthy lifestyle behaviors, what else frustrates you?
What would your life be like if you could zoom past these issues?
I hope you have a amazing week and these prompts serve you well..