In search of the new you

So often I see so much more than weight loss happen on this journey. I see lives changed and transformed.

The weight loss, while the main focus of WHY everyone started this process, ultimately is not the big WHY for the end of everyone's journey.

There are so many twists and turns, and changes that take place in the weight loss process that a new understanding of who you are, and who you want to become is one of the things I don't hear a lot of people talking about.

Sure, we will see where people talk about divorce and dating on the message boards, yet I know many go into this process hoping it will save their marriage; while others may have a strong marriage before, and a strong marriage after.

The individual journey is different for everyone; and in saying that, I'm going to share some examples of things I see day-to-day from people going through the post-op process of lifestyle change.

Career changes are a big thing I see in the post-op journey that many don't discuss often except in private forums. Not being heard at work, or feeling confident enough to FINALLY put yourself up for promotion, asking for the raise, recognizing your worth to say "enough is enough" and looking for new positions.

Feeling dismissed or unheard or taken advantage of by family and friends (or even in your career) can create boundary issues that you may not have realized could come up on your post-op journey.

Recognizing the steps that you need to take in order to fully and completely take care of yourself in the post-op process and learning how to make yourself a priority.

What does that even mean? How might you make YOU a priority in your own life?

So often, I see bariatric patients putting EVERYONE else first. In this process, one of the keys to success is the ability to put yourself first so that you can stay healthy. Giving and being of service of others can still be done, but creating healthy boundaries will help you be a better steward of your health, and will help prevent others from taking advantage of your kindness.

Overall, I see growth in confidence, self-worth, self-esteem, and individuals recognizing how they might have doubted themselves, all due to their struggle with obesity.

So, in letting go of that old self, those old habits of "not good enough" in any area of your life, start to think of WHO you want to become.

Here are some questions to consider:

What needs to change for you?
What already has changed for you?
What do you see changing as you continue to lose the weight?
What might change when you get to goal?
What will change regardless of your weight loss?

Journal prompts for growth:

Who do you want to become?

What steps do you need to take to become that person - that version of you?

What smaller goals need to be set and achieved for you to start working towards that larger goal?

What other life changes may be in your path? Would it be in your personal life? Professional/work life? Home life? Family life?

WLS goes beyond the weight loss. There is so much more that happens when you gain your life back. You start to realize all the things you've missed out on, and all the things you desire to do.

Don't wait for things to unfold. You are the creator of your identity. You are in charge of the change you seek to create.

Start living. Start Doing. Start becoming the person you desire to be.